Happiness, The Power of Now, & The Law of Attraction

March 20, 2009
One of the most amusing things to me with some law of attraction practictioners is how they use the law of attraction to resist the present moment. An ancient spiritual truth expressed by all major religions and made more popular by Eckhart Tolle today, is how when we have the ability to fully accept and surrender to the present moment, we greatly increase happiness in life. But, sadly, many people use the law of attraction to avoid the present moment and therefore unwittingly increase the level of suffering and unhappiness in their lives. How does this happen?

Because the law of attraction propells us into a constant state where we avoid what is happening right now and spend our time in the present moment instead in a constant quest for what “should be” or what we “want to be” in the future. Example: I don’t like what is right now. Meaning I don’t like my current job, or economic situation, or relationship, or health condition, and so forth. So, I need to use the law of attraction to get out of where I am right now. Because only when I get a more attractive partner can I be happy. Only when I get more money can I be happy. Only when I lose ten more pounds can I be happy. So, I create a vision board, start doing all kinds of affirmations, whatever it takes to get out of this present moment and into what I believe a “better moment” might be. The problem is, since I have never learned to appreciate the gift of what is, right now, when I get to that next future moment (which is now the present moment), I have never learned to be content with what is, so I keep running after what I think I need next to be happy and so forth.

Ironically, the more you focus on this the more you perpetuate a chronic state of discontent and even fear. Because now is never good enough no matter what present moment you are in. By not being able to accept what is and spending all your time finding ways to run away from it, you increase unhappiness. Instead, if you could befriend the present moment by going into it more deeply, you could learn to extract the juice, the gift (such as increased awareness), and even the joy out of every moment you are in.

Example One: Avoiding the Present Moment.

You lose your job, or your partner no longer wants to be with you. You tell yourself, “This should not be.” You wail, you rage, you plot your vengence. Or, you immobilize in a state of confusion or grief and remain helpless and paralysed. In this state of great emotion you avoid the gift of right now. You run and react (instead of act) by using a law of attraction approach to help you get out of where you are now to attract a new job or new partner thinking then you will be happy. Then, all will be well. And, by doing this you become future, not present, bound.

Example Two: Accepting the Present Moment.

Here you accept as quickly as possible, “I have lost my job,” or “My partner no longer wants to be with me.” Maybe you will feel some grief, some anger, or another emotion. Instead of runnning from your feelings, you feel them. As you do so stillness emerges. Within the calm of the present moment you reawaken to the beauty of what is, right now. Gratitude swells up for what is. Depth emerges giving you the power to accept and appreciate more, what is right now. You find the gold, or the gift that lies within your present circumstances. The more you open up and trust in what this moment has to offer you, the more your sense of self expands making you more aware of not only what is, but of who you really are as a human, as the planet, and as part of the Universe.

This puts you in a state of fullness, which is why I often say in the truest sense the law of attraction doesn’t exist. Because the more you empty out your ego identity (or your limited self) and expand into your identity as Spirit (as an unlimited self), the more you appreciate that even if at the level of the ego you don’t have what you want, as Spirit you already do!

The Law of Surrender

And, in that space Spirit is attempting to reveal to you what it wants for you in this moment. It has caused the present moment for a reason. As you stay open to this possibility you avoid the usual ego tendency to run from the present moment and to create a new future based upon it’s limited understanding. Instead, you surrender to what Spirit wants in this moment, leaving you open to a number of revelations. For example. Maybe you are not meant to get a job again right now. Maybe you are meant to rest for a bit, or enter into a training program for a new line of work. Or, maybe you are not meant to have a new relationship right away again. Maybe you are meant to be single for a time so you can grow into a new you!

Staying in the present moment by first using the Law of Surrender before attempting to activate the Law of Attraction you find that in many ways, Spirit knows what is best. Opening up to what Spirit wants (which is ultimately opening up to what “you” want, since you are Spirit) not only leads you to a brighter future (or a happier succession of present moments) it leads you to serenity and peace brining you the opportunity to have a lifetime of joy and fulfillment.

Namaste,

Dr. Lisa Love
Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

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Simplicity a Key to Using the Law of Attraction Spiritually

February 1, 2009
Here are some key messages about Simplicity I have found since being inspired by Obama’s Inauguration.

SIMPLE GIFTS
(Lyrics to the song they played
before Obama took the oath)

‘Tis the gift to be simple,
’tis the gift to be free.
‘Tis the gift to come down
where we ought to be.

And when we find ourselves
in the place just right,
‘Twill be in the valley
of love and delight.

When true simplicity is gained,
To bow and to bend
we shall not be ashamed.

To turn, turn
will be our delight,
‘Till by turning, turning
we come round right.

WAYNE TEASDALE QUOTES

From his book, The Mystic Heart.

 

Why Simplicity is an Urgent Issue 

 

In our social realm, the adage “live simply so others may simply live” wisely demonstrates the practical efficacy of true spirituality. This dictum is a way to concentrate our minds and our efforts on changing how we live. It is not enough merely to talk about the need to change. Wee must in fact change! This change has to begin with each of us, or else our words are meaningless.

Simplicity as a virtue, knows only what is real. It will not tolerate useless complexity in how we live; it always challenges us to reduce everything to the essentials. It is not impressed with many things, but with few things used well, especially in service to others. Simplicity of life sees reality as it is: like humility, is is only comfortable with the truth. Simplicity is truth in how we live, unadorned and free. available and inviting to all, open to the world, and welcoming of its demands on us.

FROM PEACE PILGRIM

I took my vow of simplicity. I shall not accept more than I need while others in the world have less than they need. And that was what motivated me to bring my life down to need level for me. And, I realized that the need level of a pilgrim is about rock bottom. Most people would need much more than I need. For instance if you were called into the family pattern you would need the stability of a family center for your children. There are needs beyond physical needs. I’m not telling you that your need is the same as mine, but I’m just saying you find your need level. When I found my need level I found a wonderful harmony in my life. What I want and what I need are exactly the same. You couldn’t give me anything. I don’t need it. — Peace Pilgrim.

Simplicity of life is one of the inner resources that advances our common responsibility. It can have a major impact on altering how we relate to the earth, other species, and the poor. This element of global spirituality is necessary because we must simplify our lives if the Ecological Age does not require squandering our precious resources, degrading the environment, oppressing other species, and depriving the poor, simplicity of life reveals itself concretely as a great generosity of spirit.


Towards a Global Ethic – A Tool to Guide the Use of the Law of Attraction in a Spiritual Way

January 31, 2009

If we are seeking to use the law of attraction in a spiritual way then perhaps it helps if we know some moral and ethical guidelines to follow in helping us do so.  That is why I am posting this Towards a Global Ethic: An Initial Declaration put together by spiritual leaders from all spiritual traditions who were part of the Parliment of World’s Religions.  I hope you take the time to read it.  http://www.urbandharma.org/pdf/ethic.pdf


From Consumption to Contribution: A Holiday Law of Attraction Message

November 23, 2007

On this buisest shopping day of the year, the day after Thanksgiving, I was blessed with an opportunity to pre-record the Partners in Paradise show with Kat and Curtis Kencht, KKZZ, “The Connection”, 1590.  The show will air December 1st.  They had a holiday theme on giving and this is the first show I have done where I was able to get my most essential message out, that is it time to shift our mass consciousness and use the law of attraction to create a new world no longer based mass consumption, but on contribution with an emphasis on more time for being with one another.  I was able on the show to invite law of attraction groups all over to use the holiday season and the theme of light (based on the literal fact that the Earth is closest to the Sun in its orbit this time of year), to come together, meditate, and discuss with family and friends how we need to change this Earth, not through a theme of suffering and lack as the old, but in the Spirit of joyful giving and a willingness to make do with less, so we have time for more soulful connections with one another.  On that show I invited dialogue amongst all those who use the law of attraction to share their innovations on various blogs, including this one.  And, as soon as the CD of the show is sent to me I will be posting it on this site.  I hope all of us can continue to focus on changing the world through feeling good by doing good in this world, so we can make more time for Being and not just incessant doing.  Happy Holidays!  Lisa


A Million Dollars or a Million People? Your Choice!

October 20, 2007

In my book I ask this question… “So what if you had $5 million, $25 million, $1 billion net worth, or were able to attract it to you?  Would you be able to handle that much money and live as Spirit would have you?  Or, would your ego kick in, making you greedy, insensitive, and unaware of how buying things mainly for your own satisfaction may be to the ultimate detriment of those around you — and even your long term happiness?” (Beyond the Secret: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction, pp. 153 – 154)

As I mention in my book this is a question I have struggled with for nearly two decades now.  And, quite honestly, the more I ponder it the more I want everyone who strives to use the Law of Attraction to get wealthy just to indulge their egos to do the rest of us a favor – DON’T BOTHER!  Save us the trouble.  I outline how the ego uses money in my Spirit and You chapter, and the rest of us can’t afford any more to have egotistical people get wealthy.  Here’s why!

The planet is dying!  At this point in humanity’s evolution we can only afford to have people who are spiritual be the custodians of our remaining resources and wealth.

How will spiritual people use wealth?

  • They will be visionaries creating, attracting, and building a future that moves humanity forward into a better way of life.
  • They will adhere to spiritual values (regardless of religious tradition) and be oriented towards service.
  • Even if they aquire a massive amount of money, they will live comparatively simply and will view the wealth they have as being primarily a resource to help them move humanity forward towards a better future.
  • They will advocate LESS consumption of our planetary resources, not more!
  • They will advocate MORE time for quality of life so we have time to relate to our loved ones and live more healthy, relaxed, and fit lifestyles.
  • They will come from LOVE and not fear.  Because of this they will encourage the rest of us to take time to build community and take better care of the belongings we already have.
  • They will build BRIDGES for greater understanding between people of various nationalities, religions, races, age groups, belief systems, and sexes.
  • They will CARE FOR the poor, elderly, children, animals, homeless and helpless on this Earth.
  • And, they will advocate the use of the Law of Attraction as a means to LIVE SIMPLY, so people can simply live!

Now, if you are a Republican (in the United States political system) that’s fine!  Amass wealth and through charitable endeavors and foundations do like Andrew Carnegie suggested in his book The Gospel of Wealth (and Bill Gates is modeling for other wealthy people) GIVE MOST OF IT AWAY for the benefit of others! 

And, if you are a Democrat (again in the United States political system) then use government constructively and be fisically responsible and conservative as you maintain our cities, keep them free of crime, give health care to all, make sure our children are educated well (in public and private institutions), and that our elderly and poor are taken care of when in need.

Or, better yet, do both!  I mean as I see it we live more in a Plutacracy than a Democracy right now anyway.  (A Plutacracy is government for the wealthy by the wealthy).  Though, quite frankly if the wealthiest amongst us were truly being spirtual with the money they attract and using it in the ways I list above, well then a Plutacracy wouldn’t even be that bad to live under!

Face it!  It’s time to use the Law of Repulse to get rid of the glorified notion that the apex of one’s life is becoming powerful and proving it to others by amassing a great deal of wealth and showing it off.  Supposedly 1% of the world’s population now owns and controls 99% of the world’s wealth.  Sadly, for the most part they are fairly self-indulgent with what they have.  If this is true, it cannot be sustained.   Let’s stop acting like money is the end game and greed is good.  It isn’t.  Let’s stop telling the genie in the bottle that we want to use the Law of Attraction to create this kind of world.

Instead, let’s create one where BEING is more important than doing.  Where RELATING is more important than endless work.  Where LOVE overcomes fear (and weapons will be something none of us want and need).  Where children, women, the poor and oppressed are respected and taught how to lift themselves up in the right way.   Yes, use the Republican ideal of teaching people how to fish so they can lift themselves up.  (And, by the way that is a far cry from pushing people under the water and causing them to drown so they don’t have a chance of surviving and don’t threaten you as they try to get ahead).  We can also use the Deomcratic ideal (and in my religious upbringing also the Christian ideal) of giving people some fish until we can hand them fishing poles and teach them how to become “fishermen” (and women) themselves!  (And, that is a far cry from leaving people vulnerable, ignorant, dependent and helpless because they get conditioned to always looking for a handout because they don’t know any other way to live).

Most of all.. LET’S WISH TO HELP A MILLION PEOPLE to become better, more loving, kind, creative, and prosperous… more than we wish for a million dollars to just indulge our egos.

That’s the kind of use of the Law of Attraction I want to see in the world. How about you? 


The House That Love Built

October 15, 2007

I had the huge pleasure this past weekend of attending a conference that in part promoted a new book called The House That Love Built: The Story of Linda & Millard Fuller, Founders of Habitat for Humanity and the Fuller Center for Housing by Bettie B. Youngs.  I also had the honor of meeting Linda and Millard Fuller who were examples of what I teach in my book. 

The book chronicles Millard’s early ambitions to “get rich quick” and how his quest to attract great wealth and become a multi-millionairre in his life eventually lead to the potential dissolution of his marriage with his wonderful and cherished wife, Linda.  Through their commitment to a life based upon attracting spiritual values, they turned their lives around and dedicated themselves to service and sacrifice.  The end result?  Instead of putting the emphasis on one million dollars, they give their wealth away and shift their focus to helping one million people have housing through the founding of Habitat For Humanity.   

With great faith and huge love their dedication to serve has now helped millions all over the world.  And, despite a recent crisis in 2005 where Linda and Millard were fired from the very organization they had founded and served for nearly thirty years, that faith and love continued as they quickly regrouped and established The Fuller Center for Housing so they could continue their quest to serve, and continue to do so on guiding principles of charity that is not based on the usual Law of Attraction approach of “what’s in it for me?”, but the better principle of “how can I help?” 

This is an amazingly inspiring story from two people who live the ten step process advocated in my book.  And, I total recommend it to you so you can discover why living “Beyond the Secret” can attract to you a life that is truly worth living. 


What is Spirituality?

September 1, 2007

Below is a small excerpt from my Ph.D. dissertation in Transpersonal Psychology (Copyright May 2002 by Lisa Love) summarizing the literature I reviewed at that time regarding how many authors define spirituality.  To help you sort through the required documentation in a Ph.D. dissertation, I have put the key points in bold.

Qualities of Spirituality

     What are some of the qualities associated with spirituality?  To begin with, some people (Braudy, 1997; Dunbar, 2000; Fridson, 2000, Goddard, 1995; Hill & Smith, 1995; Jagers & Smith, 1996; Kilpatrick, 1999; Niederman, 1999; Rolheiser, 1999; Roof, 1999) consider the qualities of energy, vitality, and power to be primary spiritual components. Ronald Rolheiser (1999) states:We can see from all of this that spirituality is about what we do with our spirits, our souls.  And can we see too from all of this that a healthy spirit or a healthy soul must do dual jobs: it has to give us energy and fire, so that we do not lose our vitality, and all sense of the beauty and joy of living.  Thus, the opposite of a spiritual person is not a person who rejects the idea of God and lives as a pagan.  The opposite of being spiritual is to have no energy, is to have lost all the zest for living – lying on a couch, watching football or sit-coms, taking beer intravenously! (pp. 11-12)

     Other qualities often attributed to spirituality include those of having a life purpose, or being endowed with the capacity to give one’s life meaning (Canda, 1988; Elkins, Hedstrom, Hughes, Leaf & Saunders, 1988; Frankl, 1967; Howden, 1993; McGrath, 1997; Wheat, 1991).  Still other people attribute spirituality to the belief in an Ultimate Reality (Banks, Poehler & Russell, 1984; Francis, 1986; Howden, 1993; Hungelmann, Kenkel-Rossi, Klassen, & Stollenwerk, 1985; Nagai-Jacobson & Burkhardt, 1989; Nierderman, 1999; Rolheiser, 1999; Wheat, 1991).  Niederman (1999) found in his research with over 300 people that this Ultimate Reality (or Ultimate Other as he called it) is usually made up of a “God archetype” (p. 91) of some kind, which is dependent upon the cultural and religious orientation a person holds.  The experience of an Ultimate Reality can be either dualistic or non-dualistic.  The dualistic position sees the God-archetype as a being, force, or spirit out there somewhere that can be related to for inspiration, comfort, or aid.  The non-dualistic perspective (Bailey, 1945; Brunton, 1984, 1986, 1988; Wilber, 1977, 1979) asserts there really is no other in an ultimate sense, because that other is also within us as well. 

     Another view of spirituality is that it pertains to a belief in life after death (Jagers and Smith, 1996; Niederman, 1999).  It also pertains to the capacity to contact the deceased, a view often found in indigenous shamanic traditions (Coogan, 1998; Noss, 1999, Ryan, 1999), the “spiritualists” movement of the late 19th century (Sadleir, 2000), and amongst modern day mediums and psychics (Sadleir, 2000).  Spirituality can also be associated with the cultivation of psychic powers and a cultivation of altered state experiences (Coogan, 1998; Noss, 1999, Ryan, 1999; Sadleir, 2000), which are often entered into as a means to contact the dead and access subtle realms of perception.      

     A number of other authors take issue with this view of spirituality.  Aurobindo (1948, 1958; Satprem, 1993), Bailey (1942), Brunton (1984, 1987b) and Underhill (1955) warn that psychic powers and altered state experiences divorced from a moral base can inflate the ego and therefore impede spiritual growth.  Alice Bailey (1942) even goes so far as to assert that this kind of pursuit can really be a digression from cultivating what she calls the “higher psychic abilities” that include qualities such as a refined intellect, a calm emotional state, and other surprising words like discrimination, healing, active service, spiritual discernment, response to group need or vibration, and perfected knowledge to name a few (pp. 559 – 563).        

     Aurobindo (1948, 1958), Bailey (1922, 1937, 1942, 1945), Brunton (1984, 1988), Fowler (1981), Marion (2000), Satprem (1993), Underhill (1955), Wade (1996), and Wilber (1977, 1979, 1995, 1996, 2000) are a few of the leading thinkers who talk about spirituality as emerging primarily after an ego stage of development.  Spirituality occurs only when a certain developmental level of consciousness is reached, which Bailey (1922, 1937, 1945) refers to as undergoing the first initiation, Brunton (1984, 1986) speaks about as the beginning of the spiritual quest, Wade (1996) calls the level of transcendent consciousness, and Wilber (1995) refers to as the centauric, vision-logic, or psychic (1981) levels of consciousness.  At this point the ego begins to dissolve, or transcends itself (Elkins, Hedstrom, Hughes, Leaf, & Saunders, 1988; Frankl, 1962; Jackson, 1980; Jenkins, 1995; O’Brien, 1994; Niederman, 1999), and the life emphasis shifts from what one gets out of life for oneself, to what one can increasingly give to others (Banks, Poehler, & Russell, 1984).  Bailey (1942) refers to this as the shift from acquisition to contribution.

     For a number of authors (Lane, 1987; McGrath, 1997; Shafranske, 1984, Zumeta, 1993) spirituality exists when there is a sense of community, or when someone becomes other oriented (concerned about others and not just oneself).  This sense of other can extend from simply a concern for one’s own family, to a broad concern for environmental and planetary welfare, which some authors believe only takes place when the individual has sufficiently transcended the ego (Bailey, 1937, 1945; Brunton, 1984, 1988; Wilber, 1995, 2000). 

     Finally, spirituality for many authors has to do with the cultivation of a number of traits that are often viewed as moral in nature (Beversluis, 2000; Kornfield, 2000; Teasdale, 1999, Walsh, 1999).  Both Wayne Teasdale (1999) and transpersonal psychiatrist Roger Walsh (1999) believe the emphasis on morality should be less on outer injunctions of how to live, and more upon behaviors derived from an inner realization of what Walsh (1999) calls the “direct experience of the sacred” (p. 3) which include the following qualities:  a) a reduction in cravings for material goods; b) a cultivation of emotional wisdom that manifests as compassion; c) the living of an ethical life; d) a concentrated and calm mind; e) the ability to see and recognize the sacred in all things; f) the cultivation of spiritual intelligence resulting in wisdom; g) and the desire to put spirit into action, through the embrace of generosity and the joy of service.      

     This view that spirituality is dependent upon the cultivation of certain qualities fits with the research study conducted by Niederman (1999) who found his participants equated spirituality most often with qualities that included: love and compassion; the ability to sit with mystery and not have all the answers; honesty, self-evaluation, positive thinking, patience, self-acceptance; good nutritional habits and exercise; forgiveness, self-disclosure, risking, touching, self-improvement; activities such as meditation, prayer, imaging; a desire to fashion one’s life into a life of holiness; inner strength; joy, peace, awareness, centeredness; release, gratitude, humility, tolerance, faith, commitment, surrender; an ability to see beyond the present reality; discipline, trust, love, commitment to spiritual practice, a sense of well-being, and a greater sense of connectedness and relatedness to others; and a sense of harmony with self, others, and the environment.