You never know how a simple act of kindness can change your life and the life of another individual. In my book Beyond the Secret I mention how a simple act of kindness radically changed the life of the character Jon Valjean in the book and play Les Miserables. So, when I was at Barnes and Noble the other day (eagerly awaiting to see my own book there in the store this October 19th), my eye naturally was drawn to the title, The Power of Kindness: The Unexpected Benefits of Leading a Compassionate Life by Piero Ferrucci , on the cover of a book. Even more to my delight was the name of the author, Piero Ferrucci, who I have admired for a long time now. His books Inevitable Grace and What We May Be were always favorites of mine, along with the practice of Psychosynthesis, which I once received training in. In Beyond the Secret I also mention Soul qualities that are helpful to cultivate. And, Piero’s book expands on these in a beautiful way. Which is why I totally recommend the book and advocate that we all follow it’s wonderful teachings.
Another way I agree with the Abraham-Hicks teachings is when they affirm that you are here to experience what they call Well-Being. As you experience this you will understand you are adored and blessed. This is what I call love. The Hicks also go on to express how the Universe is lining up to help you experience this energy of love so that all events you are co-creating can fulfill, satisfy and please you, giving you more joy in the moment.
In my own mystical experiences I have at times been saturated with this energy of love. And, I have at times used salt water as a metaphor for love. Salt water exists in our oceans, air, and even in our bodies. Like love it is everywhere. Ironically, when we drink salt water we have a difficult time assimilating it. In many ways the same is true of love. Real love, not the false love I speak about in my Beyond the Secret book, vibrates at the level of the soul. Many people fail to recognize and access real love because like salt water they don’t know how to assimilate it. How do we do this? By learning to vibrate to the frequency of real love by becoming truly loving — and soulful — individuals.
But, here is the paradox and where the Abraham – Hicks books can hit the skids and take you down a rather slippery slope. Because these statements about Well Being are followed quickly by statements that indicate that because the Universe is loving, it is here to give you anything, yes anything, you desire or want! If you are not getting what you want the reason is simple. You are “holding yourself in a vibrational holding pattern that does not match the vibration of your desire. That is the only reason – ever!” (Hicks, 2004, Ask and It is Given, p. 15)
My own experiences, religious, psychological, metaphysical, and spiritual training have shown me that I couldn’t disagree more! You see when we vibrate at the level of the soul and access the energy field of love all around us, we want less, and not more! Much like the St. Francis prayer in the Tap Into Your Feelings Chapter in my book, our whole orientation shifts and we discover a wonderful thing that many spiritual teachings reveal, it is in giving we receive! Because as we align with source we empty out! The more we empty, the more room we have to be fulfilled again. That is why I state that the path to real Well Being is the path of Surrender, Align, and Contribute! That is the path to outrageous joy and love! But, instead of seeing how much “stuff out there” you can want, attract to yourself, and fill up with, you see how much “space in here” you can create so there is room for you to be truly fulfilled.
And, every — yes I mean every — ecstatic experience I have ever had, hasn’t been about thinking about what I want and figuring out how to get it. It has always, always, always, been about surrender! Like orgasm, it is about relaxing, getting out of your mind (its plans, designs, beliefs), opening up, letting go, and taking a leap of not knowing, just BEING. That is true Well – Being. Many years ago I called it Well -Fullness. You empty out your well so it can become full. There is the joy! There is the love! There is so much bliss and peace. Those who have tasted it know. And, they will never be the same again. May you be blessed to one day empty out enough in surrender to get one taste (which will start to raise your vibration enough that you will then get many tastes) as well.
In Beyond the Secret I speak about the difference between happiness and joy. Happiness is fleeting and comes from living according to the demands of the ego. Joy is lasting and comes from engaging the soul.
In the Abraham-Hicks teachings they also talk about living in a state of joy. Much of their teaching really consists of techniques that can help you elevate your feeling state into a more joyful place. In fact, this is one of the things I appreciate most about their teachings, even though I believe the teachings of Rational Emotive Therapy (which were developed in the 1950’s and I learned in the 1980’s) in many ways offer a more solid approach for working with your emotions effectively.
What I would like to do here, however, is clarify more my views on what joy is in light of what the Hicks have to say. To begin with the Hicks state we are here to learn how to allow Non-Physical Energy to create our world and flow through our intentions, decisions, and thoughts. This Non-Physical Energy is also considered to be the source of joy. This is the true “you.” This “you” creates reality and there is nothing that this “you” cannot be, do, or have.
So far, so good. This is a basic metaphysical teaching, one that many, many, many people have taught in various esoteric traditions in different religious systems for thousands of years. Only one problem that my book Beyond the Secret clearly points out. Who is the “you”? And, at what state of consciousness is this “you” operating from? Because truth be told, the more “soulful” it is, the more it embodies the soul values listed in my book, and the less consumption oriented “you” (as ego) become. This also fits with my research on what is spirituality (the post from my Ph.D. dissertation work is here on this blog).
Though I am positive the Hicks themselves embody primarily soul values, have learned to live mainly in a state of joy, and are dedicated towards service, their teachings at times muddle and confuse different states of consciousness, which is my main difficulty with their teachings and books. Yes, we are here to consciously connect with Source, as their books (and numerous metaphysical, spiritual, religious books) state. But, in my extensive experience to really understand what that process looks like the Hicks books offer only a rudimentary guide towards understanding how to really access that Source, become “soul-infused,” diminish the ego, and live in a state of joy. As a beginning step, the Abraham-Hicks books offer a very valuable service. But, for the seeker looking to go further there is much, much, more.