Beyond the Secret: Ten Steps for Spiritual Attraction

March 20, 2009

Below is a listing of the Ten Steps for Spiritual Attraction listed in my book
BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction.

Ten Steps for Spiritual Attraction

Experience a 10 step process that will help you manifest the life you are meant to live.
It’s as easy as ONE, TWO, THREE!

O-N-E

Orient Towards Spirit.

Know that essentially you are Spirit. As you surrender to Spirit you come from fullness, not lack. Esentially, the more fulfilled you are the less you need to attract. Rather, you become a conduit for love to emerge and find true satisfaction in living a life of service.

Negate the Ego.

Discover the ways your ego stops you from experiencing true joy, satisfaction, and peace of mind. The ego is always about grasping. It feeds on fear and encourages a constant feeling of lack. Thus, you learn to observe your ego and infuse it with Spirit overtime negating it’s constant tendency to play what I call “The See Me Game”, which always calls attention to your little self.

Engage the Soul.

The soul is the bridge between Spirit and the ego. Essentially, the soul is consciousness and love. the ego is ultimately only diminished through love. As you engage the soul you clarify and strengthen your values. You live a life of love. And, you create soul stories instead of ego stories to inspire and motivate you.

T-W-O

Take Time to Align.

As your ego becomes filled increasingly with Spirit through consciousness and love, you shift your identity increasingly to BE-NESS, or Spirit. Now, you align the thoughts, feelings, and actions that exist in the realm of the ego by cleaning up negative karma and shifting old patterns so you can live more fully in the present moment.

Watch and Listen.

The more the various aspects of your ego (thoughts, feelings, actions) align with Spirit the more you are able to enter the silence. Here within the silence you enter the flow and follow in a more natural way what Spirit (which is you) wants for you to be, have, and attract in life. The intuition is also cultivated allowing you to listen more deeply to the realm of Spirit primarily through meditation and other intuitive means.

Order Your Thoughts.

As you descend more into the realm of thought (and the lower realms of the dense world of the ego) mind-stuff is activated. Always the grasping nature of the ego needs to be avoided at this stage, as it can easily come into play. As the mind is held in the light of Spirit, a concrete plan for manifesting your service emerges. Typical law of attraction tools such as visualization, affirmations, and mind-mapping are all useful at this stage.

T-H-R-EE

Tap Into Your Feelings.

Especially at the level of feelings the ego can overwhelm the original intention that Spirit is attempting to manifest and attract into your life. Learning to develop emotional mastery is especially important at this stage by understanding the gift of every emotion allowing you to use all of them in a conscious and effective way. Then your emotions can turn into a powerful tool for increasing the momentum you need to succeed to illuminate your life with love and to manifest your service lovingly into the world around you.

Highlight the Shadow in Others.

Especially as you prepare to manifest a service into the world the dense ego states of others (their thoughts, feelings, and actions) can rise up to oppose you. Learning to work with the ego states of others in a loving, detached, and effective way is important and helps you understand how to improve the situation by ideally transforming them, or if this is not possible coping with them, or if need be walking away from them altogether.

Remove the Shadow in Yourself.

As we near success in getting what we want the ego once again can rear it’s head. Jesus experienced this in the desert after his baptism and Buddha went through it under the Bodhi Tree. All the trappings of success can produce the “Shadow Side of the Law of Attraction” as we slip away from our identity with Spirit and once again get caught up in the lure of fame, wealth, beauty, and all the numerous games our egos play to try to “prove” how special we are, forgetting as Spirit all are special and we are everyone around us.

Execute and Easy Does It!

Moving into the realm of action skill is still required to manifest our service in the world. Skills inlcude the ability to develop a keen sense of timing, making sure you have something of real value to offer, and knowing how to build a support team to help you sustain what you manifest so it can come into full flowering in the world.

Blessings,

Dr. Lisa Love
Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


Happiness, The Power of Now, & The Law of Attraction

March 20, 2009
One of the most amusing things to me with some law of attraction practictioners is how they use the law of attraction to resist the present moment. An ancient spiritual truth expressed by all major religions and made more popular by Eckhart Tolle today, is how when we have the ability to fully accept and surrender to the present moment, we greatly increase happiness in life. But, sadly, many people use the law of attraction to avoid the present moment and therefore unwittingly increase the level of suffering and unhappiness in their lives. How does this happen?

Because the law of attraction propells us into a constant state where we avoid what is happening right now and spend our time in the present moment instead in a constant quest for what “should be” or what we “want to be” in the future. Example: I don’t like what is right now. Meaning I don’t like my current job, or economic situation, or relationship, or health condition, and so forth. So, I need to use the law of attraction to get out of where I am right now. Because only when I get a more attractive partner can I be happy. Only when I get more money can I be happy. Only when I lose ten more pounds can I be happy. So, I create a vision board, start doing all kinds of affirmations, whatever it takes to get out of this present moment and into what I believe a “better moment” might be. The problem is, since I have never learned to appreciate the gift of what is, right now, when I get to that next future moment (which is now the present moment), I have never learned to be content with what is, so I keep running after what I think I need next to be happy and so forth.

Ironically, the more you focus on this the more you perpetuate a chronic state of discontent and even fear. Because now is never good enough no matter what present moment you are in. By not being able to accept what is and spending all your time finding ways to run away from it, you increase unhappiness. Instead, if you could befriend the present moment by going into it more deeply, you could learn to extract the juice, the gift (such as increased awareness), and even the joy out of every moment you are in.

Example One: Avoiding the Present Moment.

You lose your job, or your partner no longer wants to be with you. You tell yourself, “This should not be.” You wail, you rage, you plot your vengence. Or, you immobilize in a state of confusion or grief and remain helpless and paralysed. In this state of great emotion you avoid the gift of right now. You run and react (instead of act) by using a law of attraction approach to help you get out of where you are now to attract a new job or new partner thinking then you will be happy. Then, all will be well. And, by doing this you become future, not present, bound.

Example Two: Accepting the Present Moment.

Here you accept as quickly as possible, “I have lost my job,” or “My partner no longer wants to be with me.” Maybe you will feel some grief, some anger, or another emotion. Instead of runnning from your feelings, you feel them. As you do so stillness emerges. Within the calm of the present moment you reawaken to the beauty of what is, right now. Gratitude swells up for what is. Depth emerges giving you the power to accept and appreciate more, what is right now. You find the gold, or the gift that lies within your present circumstances. The more you open up and trust in what this moment has to offer you, the more your sense of self expands making you more aware of not only what is, but of who you really are as a human, as the planet, and as part of the Universe.

This puts you in a state of fullness, which is why I often say in the truest sense the law of attraction doesn’t exist. Because the more you empty out your ego identity (or your limited self) and expand into your identity as Spirit (as an unlimited self), the more you appreciate that even if at the level of the ego you don’t have what you want, as Spirit you already do!

The Law of Surrender

And, in that space Spirit is attempting to reveal to you what it wants for you in this moment. It has caused the present moment for a reason. As you stay open to this possibility you avoid the usual ego tendency to run from the present moment and to create a new future based upon it’s limited understanding. Instead, you surrender to what Spirit wants in this moment, leaving you open to a number of revelations. For example. Maybe you are not meant to get a job again right now. Maybe you are meant to rest for a bit, or enter into a training program for a new line of work. Or, maybe you are not meant to have a new relationship right away again. Maybe you are meant to be single for a time so you can grow into a new you!

Staying in the present moment by first using the Law of Surrender before attempting to activate the Law of Attraction you find that in many ways, Spirit knows what is best. Opening up to what Spirit wants (which is ultimately opening up to what “you” want, since you are Spirit) not only leads you to a brighter future (or a happier succession of present moments) it leads you to serenity and peace brining you the opportunity to have a lifetime of joy and fulfillment.

Namaste,

Dr. Lisa Love
Dr. Lisa Love Website

Copyright © 2009 by Lisa Love. All Rights Reserved.

About Dr. Lisa Love

Best-selling author of BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction. She is also a Life, Relationship, Law of Attraction, and Tranformational coach. There’s a reason my clients tell me by working with me they get major breakthroughs fast! Decades of coaching and counseling experience combined with my extensive training and work with clients from all backgrounds help my clients make shifts in a rapid way. Contact me to discover what I can do for you.

FREE GIFTS ON MY WEBSITE: Go to: http://www.doctorlisalove.com/freegifts.html


Simplicity a Key to Using the Law of Attraction Spiritually

February 1, 2009
Here are some key messages about Simplicity I have found since being inspired by Obama’s Inauguration.

SIMPLE GIFTS
(Lyrics to the song they played
before Obama took the oath)

‘Tis the gift to be simple,
’tis the gift to be free.
‘Tis the gift to come down
where we ought to be.

And when we find ourselves
in the place just right,
‘Twill be in the valley
of love and delight.

When true simplicity is gained,
To bow and to bend
we shall not be ashamed.

To turn, turn
will be our delight,
‘Till by turning, turning
we come round right.

WAYNE TEASDALE QUOTES

From his book, The Mystic Heart.

 

Why Simplicity is an Urgent Issue 

 

In our social realm, the adage “live simply so others may simply live” wisely demonstrates the practical efficacy of true spirituality. This dictum is a way to concentrate our minds and our efforts on changing how we live. It is not enough merely to talk about the need to change. Wee must in fact change! This change has to begin with each of us, or else our words are meaningless.

Simplicity as a virtue, knows only what is real. It will not tolerate useless complexity in how we live; it always challenges us to reduce everything to the essentials. It is not impressed with many things, but with few things used well, especially in service to others. Simplicity of life sees reality as it is: like humility, is is only comfortable with the truth. Simplicity is truth in how we live, unadorned and free. available and inviting to all, open to the world, and welcoming of its demands on us.

FROM PEACE PILGRIM

I took my vow of simplicity. I shall not accept more than I need while others in the world have less than they need. And that was what motivated me to bring my life down to need level for me. And, I realized that the need level of a pilgrim is about rock bottom. Most people would need much more than I need. For instance if you were called into the family pattern you would need the stability of a family center for your children. There are needs beyond physical needs. I’m not telling you that your need is the same as mine, but I’m just saying you find your need level. When I found my need level I found a wonderful harmony in my life. What I want and what I need are exactly the same. You couldn’t give me anything. I don’t need it. — Peace Pilgrim.

Simplicity of life is one of the inner resources that advances our common responsibility. It can have a major impact on altering how we relate to the earth, other species, and the poor. This element of global spirituality is necessary because we must simplify our lives if the Ecological Age does not require squandering our precious resources, degrading the environment, oppressing other species, and depriving the poor, simplicity of life reveals itself concretely as a great generosity of spirit.


Musings on Moving Beyond the Ego’s Use of the Law of Attraction

January 31, 2009
While doing research on my newest book (the follow up to my Beyond the Secret book), I was reviewing some of my favorite texts from various spiritual teachers I admire. I was particularly struck by what I read in Wayne Teasdale’s THE MYSTIC HEART about some of the ideas of Thomas Keating’s writings on “the false self.”

To summarize, Teasdale shares how in our early years if we do not get what we need in the way of security, love, and a feeling of mastery and control over our environment, we will compensate for it in the following ways:

1) Not enough of security as a child — compensating with an over-emphasis on material prosperity.

2) Not enough love as a child — seeking out the approval of others (even pursuing fame to do so).

3) Not enough control as a child — attempts to dominate others at work, in the family, and everywhere!

GOODNESS! No wonder so many people stress using the law of attraction to get money, approval, and as a means to control their environments. How riddled they must be with feelings of fear, believing inside they are fundamentally unlovable, and that they are out of control in this world and need to compensate for it all by using the law of attraction to find ways to be totally in control. And, maybe this is why research showed a few years ago that despite how prosperous American’s were they scored very high on the unhappiness scale. How sad, because it means that essentially we have way too many children (both young and inside the bodies of adults still) who feel insecure, unloved, and out of control.

This said, perhaps the antidote to using the law of attraction in a more spiritual (versus egotistical way) is to show people how to feel inwardly secure (which comes about by knowing how to wisely intuit and rely upon the Divine), loved for who they are (no matter what the outer appearance of their lives), and using surrender (and my formula of Surrender-Align-Contribute) so they no longer feel the need to control and give it over more to the Divine flow!

Well, I guess that is what the spiritual quest is all about really. Learning how to heal the wounds of our childhood to help us overcome the ego and live in the light, love, joy, and freedom of the Divine!

Blessings as you pursue yours!

Lisa


Ways BEYOND THE SECRET Differs From The Secret

January 14, 2008

Excerpt from BEYOND THE SECRET: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction 

Throughout this book I have attempted to reveal to you a “secret” that is much more profound and meaningful to your life than the one illustrated in The Secret.  It is my hope this book sets you on a more solid path so you can use the law of attraction safely and well.  Along these lines let me clarify succinctly the contrasts that exist between The Secret and Beyond the Secret so you when using the law of attraction you will no longer be misled or confused.  Some assertions of The Secret that differ from Beyond the Secret .   

1. The Great Secret of Life is the law of attraction — The Secret.  The Great Secret of life is the secret of Spirit! – Beyond the Secret

2. You are the most powerful magnet in the universe – The Secret   Who are “you?”  Who is the “you” that is doing the thinking?  Your spiritual self?  Your ego?  How can you discern between the two? – Beyond the Secret

3. Ask the Universe for what you want — The Secret  Ask the Universe to reveal to you what it wants you to attract and manifest for the sake of service — Beyond the Secret

4. It takes no time for the Universe to manifest what you want — The Secret  The Universe may never manifest what you want especially if it is seeking to abort your egotistical impulses  — Beyond the Secret

5. Like attracts like.  Thoughts are magnetic and have a frequency – The Secret.  Yes, so strive to be and live in higher, or soul, consciousness first, or you will only attract the thoughts and magnetic frequency of the ego – Beyond the Secret

6. Thoughts become things.  – The Secret.  Consciousness becomes Being.  Learn to be more conscious so that your thoughts are not motivated by unconscious, subconscious, ignorant, or egotistical impulses – Beyond the Secret

7. Nothing can come into your experience unless you summon it through your persistent thoughts — The Secret.  Though you are essentially Spirit, the sum total of Spirit manifests in everyone and everything.  The mind of Spirit is greater than yours and It can attract events to you that you may not have thought about or wanted in the slightest for the sake of your spiritual growth — Beyond the Secret

8. You create reality — The Secret  Yes, “you” as Spirit create reality.  But “you” as a human being with a limited consciousness and brain primarily interpret reality and can do so by creating either soul stories or ego stories.  Whatever story you choose creates the direction of your dominant thought patterns and sets up the probability that you will live in either a spiritual or egotistical way on this earth — Beyond the Secret

9. A shortcut to manifesting your desires is see what you want as absolute fact — The Secret  The ego is always afraid it will not get what it wants, which is why it is prone to absolutes.  As you learn to at-one with Spirit your ego is less absolute, more humble, and more willing to let things unfold instead of always attempting to direct the show — Beyond the Secret

10. It is impossible to feel bad and have good thoughts — The Secret  It is possible to feel bad in the form of healthy guilt and shame and have bad thoughts that ultimately motivate you to want to change and become a better, more loving, and spiritual person — Beyond the Secret

11. Good feelings attract good things, bad feelings attract bad things — The Secret   There are no good and bad feelings.  Both can serve in either a positive or negative way.  Bad feelings may have a constructive purpose if they are waking your ego up to the fact that it needs to develop soul values.  Good feelings can have a destructive purpose if they lead you to feel good simply about indulging your ego. So, move beyond if a feeling is good or bad and try to discover how to use all feelings in a more conscious and spiritual way — Beyond the Secret

12. “Don’t want” means you really want it  — The Secret.  “Don’t want” can mean you don’t want it.  Both “don’t want” (the law of repulse) and “do want” (the law of attraction) are valuable in this world — Beyond the Secret

13. Only do what “feels good”  — The Secret   Attempt to do what “feels right.” Feel good by doing good — Beyond the Secret

14. Ask, believe, and receive  – The Secret.   Surrender, align, and contribute. – Beyond the Secret

15. What you resist you attract — The Secret  Yes, and the ego always resists anything that isn’t for only its own good.  Counter your ego’s resistance by learning to surrender to what Spirit wants for you — Beyond the Secret

16. To attract money, focus on wealth — The Secret  To attract money in a spiritual way, focus on service.  Spirit will deliver what you need — Beyond the Secret

17. You cannot catch any illness unless you think you can  — The Secret Even the most spiritual people amongst us may suffer from disease.  The causes for disease are numerous and are not always a result of your thoughts — Beyond the Secret

18. Love is the greatest emotion — The Secret.   Love is not an emotion, it is a choice.  Though it may be reflected into the emotions it exists beyond emotion in the realm of the soul — Beyond the Secret

19. You cannot help the world by focusing on negative things… and you only add to negativity by doing so — The Secret  Be willing to totally embrace and see head on all of the problems of the world.  You are the world.  Then use the law of service and the law of sacrifice to make the difference in the world you are meant to — Beyond the Secret

20. We will never run out of good things because there’s more than enough to go around for everyone — The Secret.  There is enough for our needs, but not our greeds.  Global warming is such a problem right now precisely because as a species we are over-consuming and pretending the good things we want to indulge our egos with will never run out.  Remember, the ego is afraid of not getting what it wants.  It shies away from service and sacrifice.  When we are truly identified with Spirit we want less, not more, because we want everyone to have enough, not just ourselves — Beyond the Secret

And finally, I would like to summarize some lessons that I would like you to take away from this book regarding the law of attraction itself.  

Remember the law of attraction is neutral.  It can be used at the level of Spirit, or the ego.

Each of us has the responsibility to learn the secret of Spirit so we are no longer tempted to feed just our egos.  Remember… 

The only difference in how you use the law of attraction is whether the motive behind using it is for egotistical or spiritual ends.         

 It isn’t always easy to understand our true motives.  The ego has a lot of tricks for deluding us.  Our ignorance, innocence, unconscious, and subconscious motives can block us from a clear perception of why we want what we do.  Of course one of the  safest bets is to want what is good for others, in addition to ourselves. 

Proof that you are using the law of attraction well comes from the overall joy you feel from being filled with love, and living a good life no matter what your outer circumstances.   

Living in this way is how I know in my own life that I am residing at the center of double dorje (spiritual enlightenment) cross.  As I often tell myself, Regardless of my outer circumstances, if my heart is happy my world is good

Again, Spirit is in everything that is and wants us ultimately to learn how to be conscious of, and loving towards, everything and everyone around us.  Though I wish for everyone, as well as myself, an abundance of money, security, good-health, friends, and happiness, I know that I wish far more for an abundance of wisdom, love, compassion, and the capacity to do good no matter what life brings anyone.  That is the joy of being at-one with spirit and living as a soul and why I leave you with this final thought:  

The real secret to the law of attraction is using it in accordance with Spirit.  Seek to attract the wisdom regarding how to do this.

I certainly hope this book has helped you along these lines.  May you be filled with love, light, and spiritual power in your search!   


Harry Potter and Beyond the Secret: Spiritual Power and the Law of Attraction

December 21, 2007

I’ve been rewatching Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix since it came out on DVD.  In doing so I have realized how much the Harry Potter series supports the ten step process I write about in my book.  The entire Harry Potter series flies in the face of the popular law of attraction notion celebrated in The Secret book that we attract bad things into our lives due to our bad thoughts and feelings, and good things because we knew how to think and feel in a good way. 

Instead, Harry Potter illuminates the fact that sometimes bad things happen to really good people, just as my book also asserts.  Bad things may also happen to good people precisely because they are good.  In developing spiritual abundance and soul values they learn to maintain their capacity to love much as Harry Potter does, and Voldermort does not.

And, it is what we tell ourselves about the events that happen in our lives, more than the events themselves, that matters.  Great things can happen to us and we can become very egotistical and self-centered people only thinking of what we gained and insensitive to how our greed and arrogance may be causing others suffering and pain.  (Note: the character of Dolores Umbridge in the Order of the Phoenix demonstrates this).  Or, bad things can happen to us and we can become filled with hate, anger, and a thirst for power, domination, and revenge as is the case with Voldermort.  They are stories we tell ourselves about events that only feed the ego in our lives. Just as Harry learns in this film we can focus on the pain and suffering and become victims surrendering our power to others, or Voldermorts dominating others.   All of these represent “ego stories” in my book. 

Or, we can tell ourselves “soul stories.”  Just as Harry is called to do by Dumbledore in the Order of the Phoenix film, we overcome pain, anger, hatred, and despair by remembering the good in our lives.  By focusing on friends, loved ones, positive memories, like Harry we overcome adversity and in many ways become even stronger, more loving, and spiritual having faced it all well.  So, if you are experiencing adversity in your life look for how you can develop spiritual values despite it.  Then, you will know what Harry knows…. love truly can conqueor all.